I received in my email inbox today an email from Match.com about their free guide on How to Find the Right Person in 90 Days. This is free to anyone who signs up. The guide is geared to help you find out about yourself so you can find the right person for you.

The twist is that they have added a new section to the guide for the Holiday season. They say:

Being single during the holidays can be difficult. In fact, as you watch happy couples snuggle up for warmth, share hot chocolate and give each other Eskimo kisses on a cold winter day, “difficult” can be a major understatement, according to more than a third of singles we recently polled. But it’s time to shake off that impulse to say, “Bah, humbug.” Why? Because we know a few fantastic facts that you don’t—and they can change your life.

The first part of the guide is comprised of seven tips to help you be more successful dating during the holiday season. The best of these tips is to stay positive and embrace the holidays. These kind of go together as a happy person is a more attractive person. If you are positive and have fun with the season you may have a better chance of meeting that special someone.

The next part is about pairing the season with your online dating. The idea is to holiday up your profile. Talk about what you like about the holidays and the things you like to do in the winter activity wise. Also they recommend posting some photos with a winter seasonal style, like you on the slopes if you love to ski.

The third part is a Q&A regarding some holiday dating essentials. Like I just met someone should I invite him or her over for the holidays? The answer being no, family introductions can be seen as a big step in a relationship. One or the other of you might get the wrong idea of where you think you are at in your budding relationship. Other items covered are gift giving, office parties and whether I should break it off now or wait till after the holidays?

The Holiday section of How to Find the Right Person in 90 Days has some good information and tips. It is more than just information for the online dater. It is for the single person, whether looking for love online or off. Many of the tips and suggestions are ways to meet someone offline. This section of the guide also includes a success story and closes with The 10 Best Ways to Meet Someone Right Now. Number six being the only one involving online dating.

If you haven’t already done so, you might want to consider registering and downloading How to Find the Right Person in 90 Days.

Yesterday was a couple of things I don’t like and today is the flipside. Here are a couple of things I do like about Chemistry.com. Once again these are in comparison to my experience using eHarmony. They are very similar in how they work.

1. The amount of matches you get at Chemistry.com is greater than at eHarmony. They use different criteria to create matches so a difference is to be expected. Yet the difference is huge. Chemistry.com has matched me with 62 different women in just over two weeks of being on the site. In the same time frame I have gotten around 10 matches at eHarmony.
2. I like Chemistry.com’s seeming focus on meeting the other person. The site is geared to get to email communication and with that comes the First-Meeting option that you can send to a match. This is a feature that helps you and a match put together a time and place that meets both of your schedules. The idea is a 20 to 30 minute meeting to see if there is any off website chemistry. The system can even help by suggesting places like coffee houses and the like that are equidistant from each you. A scheduling system that also helps pick a spot about halfway between you and your match is a good idea.

Have you been able to try Chemistry.com yet? What do you like about it?

I have been on this online matching site for a couple of weeks now. After this short time here are a couple of things I don’t like. Tomorrow will about a couple of things I do like about Chemistry.com. These things are in comparison to my experience using eHarmony.

1. At first look the communication process being shorter seems like a good idea until you have gone through it and reach the email stage. When you get to this stage at Chemistry.com, I feel like I don’t really know much about the other person. At eHarmony you have a larger amount of info on the initial profile page and more intermediate questions to answer before entering open email communication. This leaves you with less stuff to talk about when starting an email conversation at Chemistry.com than at eHarmony.
2. On the subject of email, that is my second dislike. The email system at Chemistry.com is like an internal Hotmail type system but without the ability to create folders and such. This leaves all you potential partner emails in one big inbox for you to wade through and keep up with. I like the eHarmony system that has an individual inbox for each match making it easy to keep up with who you are conversing with at the moment. It is hard enough to keep up two or more email conversations as it is. This in my opinion only makes it more difficult.

Have you been trying out, Chemisty.com, the new personality matching service from the creators of Match.com? What are the areas that you think need improving? Leave your thoughts in comments below.

Last week after signing up to try out Chemistry.com during the public testing phase I had a thought. It was an idea for an article. Something to post here that I thought was interesting and would make a good story. Yet I couldn’t come up with a good way to execute it. What is it that I am talking about?

Well I thought that it would be fascinating to be matched with someone at one personality matching dating site and then each sign up at others. Allowing you to see if multiple matchmaking sites would find you compatible. I thought this would be a great idea. If you were matched at PerfectMatch then would Chemistry.com match you, for example?

There is no good way to do this though that I could think of. You can’t just have you and someone you know sign up because you don’t know if you match. Once you have been matched with someone on one site it is kind of weird to ask them to sign up for another dating site to see if you would get matched up there as well. You can’t go back to past matches as once you stop communicating it is understood that you will not contact them anymore. Any idea I did have, to try and do this, well they all seemed too creepy. My first purpose is to meet someone not to test out dating sites after all. So I put it on the old back burner. Sometimes when you stop thinking about something you come up with a new idea out of the blue.

In this case I didn’t have to wait that long. Yet I never came up with an idea. I just logged in to Chemistry.com last night and saw that I had five new matches. One of the names stood out, as it was not a Jessica, a Jennifer, a Michelle or a Sarah. I clicked on it to read the profile. When the page loaded there it was, a picture that I recognized. From where, you ask? From eHarmony, this was a person I had previously been matched up with there.

These two sites have different matching criteria but yet have both matched me with the same person. I went back and checked the closed matches at eHarmony to make sure. It is the same person. I find this intriguing and will keep an eye out for more of these double matches should they occur. Maybe your ultimate match is one that multiple matching sites find you compatible with. What do you think about that? Maybe one day you could sign up at PerfectChemistryTrueHarmony.com to find that really special someone.